Why Blogging Is Not For the Faint of Heart

Recently, someone made a comment about my life that shocked me. Unaware that I was being perceived in such a way, I quickly wracked my brain for reasons why this conclusion had been reached. I realized that blogging about my life or, more precisely, my marriage, is slightly perilous.

People draw conclusions about my life.

(Since I hate being too serious, a picture)

I never sat down and planned this blog’s branding or our family image, I never considered how things might be (mis)construed. And yet, it makes sense. If I offer you a small, tinted window through which to see me (my life, my husband), you are bound to have only a small piece of the puzzle and draw a slightly inaccurate picture.

And so I wonder. Should I blog? Generally, blogging is a way for me to vent, share a laugh and post random stories. And yet. There are days when I vacillate between wanting to write a book (and be super duper famous…or at least have someone ask for my autograph) and wanting to delete this blog.

I’m curious though, how do you (or other bloggers you know) maintain a sense of sanity, humanity and privacy while displaying your life in cyber-space? Also, what do you get out of this blog? A laugh? Cultural-sensitivity training (HA!)? Offended?


7 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. yolanda
    Mar 09, 2011 @ 01:45:00

    i hope you keep blogging! i like reading your blogs for some laughs and some (small) glimpses of whats going on chez vous since its hard to catch up often… i appreciate funny anecdotes for what they are – a small part of lives that involve a lot more.

    i often have trouble coming up with things to blog, since there is stuff i don’t feel like writing about or requires too much context, since nobody wants a 10 page blog entry. so i stick to things that are easier to explain or don’t require as much context to be understood by those i think are reading my blog.

    its a way for me to keep in touch and share some tiny bits and pieces of my life with people at “home.” i seriously hope that no one is reading it to learn about burundi or development or to have a balanced image of life here or anything like that since that is not my goal at all. especially because i mainly write about going to the post office or things in my garden – which really only represents about an hour of my time in a week that has 168 hours, and so obviously there is a lot of other stuff going on, and i hope that people would realize that! but you’re right, it is tricky, especially not know how others are understanding or misunderstanding what you are writing.


  2. denise
    Mar 09, 2011 @ 02:49:26

    please don’t stop. it gives me hope that cross-cultural relationships can and do actually work out. x


  3. Sharon
    Mar 09, 2011 @ 17:21:46

    I love love love your blog, as I mentioned last time you were in Montreal. As with Denise, I appreciate the insight (albeit, light-hearted insight) it gives me into cross-cultural relationships, being in one myself. It’s important to remind myself that some situations just need a laugh. I also grew up around a huge population of Indian people- in fact most of my closest friends were Indian. I totally get a lot of the references you make, and (as corny as it is) it kinda gives me warm fuzzies to have reminders of my childhood. I feel like you guys could be an extension of my “family”.


  4. Amelia
    Mar 09, 2011 @ 21:07:02

    Thanks, Girls! These are super encouraging! Don’t worry, I will keep blogging, it was just a moment of anger/annoyance…kind of like when my Mom used to say if I did “that” again I’d be grounded for a year, haha.

    @Yolanda: I like that, “a small part of a life that involves a lot more”. As always, I love reading YOUR blog!
    @Sharon and Denise: I’m curious, what concerns or questions do you have about intercultural marriages? I’d love to generate some dialogue…


  5. Julie
    Mar 10, 2011 @ 00:46:49

    I love your blog, Amelia! You always make me laugh. And you’re a great storyteller. In my opinion, that’s what makes a good blog – good stories, glimpses into someone else’s life and a little laughter doesn’t hurt either.

    I originally started my blog to keep my long-distance family in the loop on our lives. After having a baby, it became mostly about her (keeping the grandmas/aunts happy with pics and stories!) But in the last couple years, it’s also become a creative outlet for me. I’m a writer and I find release – sometimes even spiritual growth/perspective – in telling my stories. At times I’ve struggled with feeling like maybe I’m being narcissistic by keeping a blog, but as long as I keep my heart and motives in check, I think it’s a good thing.

    Anyway, I don’t know what this person might have said to you, but I hope you keep blogging!


  6. John
    Mar 14, 2011 @ 13:45:52

    I think you’re filling a creative niche with this blog, and so I’d encourage you to continue writing. Your stories are usually quite funny and insightful-please keep them coming!


  7. Team Oyeniyi
    Mar 21, 2011 @ 05:22:06

    Don’t you dare stop – you are one of the few other blogs about cross cultural marriages. We are a very small niche!


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